Do not under any circumstances do the following:
1. Have break-up sex (especially after months of not seeing each other).
Remember that you broke up for a reason and that you don’t have sex with people you’re trying to get over. This is especially important if you’re a woman, since during sex, a hormone called oxytocin (or the dreaded “cuddle hormone”) is released in the female body; this is lethal for getting over someone as it makes you trust your partner more, lowers your defenses, increases levels of empathy and it puts you at risk for falling right back in love. Think with your brain and not your heart or genitals and you’ll thank me later.
2. Talk shit about your ex to their family or friends.
If your ex comes up in conversation when you’re not yet over them, keep it short and sweet to avoid sliding into that dark space. Although you might think you’re tainting that person’s ideas about your ex-flame by talking shit, you’re really tainting their view of you. Bitterness is not a cute look on anybody, and talking about your ex negatively never has the outcome you want it to.
3. Try to move on too quickly.
So you’ve just broken up and are in a fragile place. You are desperate to feel wanted by anybody. Suddenly, you’re chatting it up with some hottie on Tinder with a half-naked display picture.
It’s unfair to drag another person into your mess with the lone goal of not being alone and keep them around for the off chance that your ex will see you out with someone new. Everyone will know your relationship is just for show and it will end, leaving you in a worse place than you were before since you didn’t let yourself heal properly.
One-night stands often end up making you feel bad about yourself in the long run, and friends-with-benefits situations simply reap no benefits at all.
4. Try to “fake it ’til you make it.”
This is otherwise known as the “tough guy approach,” letting everyone think you’re fine by burying your feelings deep inside you until they rot your core and make you an un-dateable monster. Yeah, don’t do that. If you don’t address your prior relationship’s end in a healthy way, you can’t learn how to love yourself and are setting yourself up for failure in future relationships
5. Abuse drugs and/or alcohol.
Although it feels amazing to dance your heart out to “Call Your Girlfriend” while under the influence, you can’t be doing this every day. Alcohol is a depressant and drugs are a slippery-ass slope, so have fun but in moderation.
Unfortunately, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind is just a movie, and technology hasn’t yet found a way of making us forget about our exes and relationships completely. Just remember that you’re loved and important to the world, so be kind to yourself. Time heals all wounds and breakups are no exception to this rule. Even though the future may look bleak, eventually you will get back to being happy.
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